Gentle parenting is not a feminist project | Nina Lyon [Video]

New generations of parents view ‘gentle parenting’ as an enlightened, liberal approach, focused on child autonomy. But it may not provide the freedom that it claims to. Its demands often result in burnt-out parents, and despite its gender-neutral language, the burden falls overwhelmingly on mothers. Gentle parenting is repackaged attachment theory, and we should learn from earlier feminist critiques to understand how superficially progressive ideas can reinforce traditional gender roles in practice.

Gentle parenting is the millennial gold standard for child-rearing. The gentle parent is empathetic, validating their child’s feelings and viewing them as an autonomous individual whose thoughts and needs deserve adult-level respect. Instead of using rewards and punishment, they teach and problem-solve collaboratively with their child.